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sex and ulcerativecolitis

Thu, July 21, 2016 11:31 AM

My boyfriend was diagnosed with ulcerativecolitis when he was young. He is 27 I am 24. Steady relationship. Been together 6 months. We where having sex normal everything was fine and then he has no sex drive is this normal who does this happen to.

FPO lvebug32
Joined Jul 21, 2016

Wed, September 08, 2021 6:18 AM

Reply posted for lvebug32.

I know that most treatments affect the sex life of men. Interferes with orgasm and ejaculation. I became totally impotent before Entyvio. Your sex life won't get back to normal so use alternatives and love him anyhow. Not his fault.

FPO BeenThere
Joined Sep 8, 2021

Sat, October 03, 2020 10:00 AM

Reply posted for lvebug32.

That is very natural dear. Just love him and assure him that everything will be alright.

FPO Runzun
Joined Oct 3, 2020

Thu, August 20, 2020 7:25 AM

Reply posted for lvebug32.

I think your Boyfriend's Low sex drive has many reasons. Anxiety, Other Stress and some Hormonal Problems. You Should try some Lifestyle Changes, Exercises and Natural Diet and Fruits.

FPO brucesessions
Joined Aug 20, 2020

Thu, May 21, 2020 3:14 PM

Reply posted for jdoggy2019 .

What herbal pills do you use?

FPO mimikevin25
Joined May 21, 2020

Mon, February 24, 2020 2:57 AM

Reply posted for lvebug32.

I have not had a relationship since diagnosis in October 2017. I'm 53 and I crave a relationship and still feel my sex urges, but can't imagine having to run to the bathroom during intimate moments. I do still take care of the urges myself and do not have any pain or discomfort, but the sensation and feelings are not the same. All the drugs and mental battles do take a toll. I do find when I am able to exercise my desires are enhanced because my circulation gets better and everything in my body benefits. 

It's confusing and now that I am on the road to remission, I'm not sure if I will stay away from flares long enough to meet someone to share my life with and who is compassionate enough to know I am so much more than my disease. I know sex is not all of a relationship by far, but it is an important factor for most people. 

Before I was diagnosed, I was a very active person here in Colorado, bike riding, volleyball in the park and hikes and drives in the mountains with many great meetup groups. My goal is to be back to the activeness and healthier than ever with a better diet and appreciation of life.

FPO thike1966
Joined Mar 23, 2018

Tue, December 03, 2019 2:54 AM

Reply posted for rangerstown24.

Your right,it does cause mental issues that affect sex drive completely. Therapist is the way to go. I struggle also and feel ashamed of myself and worse because of me letting my mind win. Thanks for the Info. Very well said.

FPO jdoggy2019
Joined Dec 3, 2019

Tue, December 03, 2019 2:50 AM

Reply posted for Rach87 .

You are on the right track with the situation. Keep your heads up it will get better. Keep us informed on what you come up with. I have 100% same issue. Makes a man not feel so much like a man. It will be alright though! Good luck to both of you stay strong and communicate!

FPO jdoggy2019
Joined Dec 3, 2019

Tue, December 03, 2019 2:47 AM

Reply posted for Billybob.

I am in the same boat and I feel horrible about it. We have a great relationship and very attracted to one another. I am also researching into this alot. I feel I have lost my drive to go get it and it kills me. She hates it to but is very much understanding thankfully. I have used the herbal pills so far and good success but only for few days then its 25$ again to be that way. Good luck and let me know your thoughts.

FPO jdoggy2019
Joined Dec 3, 2019

Tue, December 03, 2019 2:44 AM

Reply posted for lvebug32.

My name is Jamie and I can definitely say that it does affect you sexually. I have had Crohn's disease for an estimated 10 years or more before my diagnosis in 2009 so almost 20 years. I'm 38 now. Never thought that anything was wrong with me but it all started to come together over time. The erectile dysfunction symptom comes from being so anxious, sad, scared possibly embarrassed because of the symptoms we have to deal with. The pain is the biggest issue for me. Pain has my mind in one note all the time 24/7 trying to tell myself it will go away. The constant situations we deal with from 18 restroom sits to bleeding, stomach pain really take a toll. Its definitely not you personally though making it this way. It always gets better. Anxiety meds is a great help though! Good luck.

FPO jdoggy2019
Joined Dec 3, 2019

Wed, April 17, 2019 9:03 PM

Reply posted for lvebug32.

I have had colitis for over 20 years and have had no drive. My wife hates this and I have tried to explain this to her that it is something that has happened on its own and not by choice. I’ve tried testosterone shots and creams. They do not work. My suggestion is love him for who he is and talk to him about this. He may get angry about talking but remember this is a disease and it does effect your mind also. I try to find other ways to keep the wife happy and try to do anything I can for her.

FPO Billybob
Joined Apr 17, 2019

Sat, May 05, 2018 6:10 AM

Reply posted for lvebug32.

Low libido is very common for UC sufferers. My husband has UC and his drive is very low. It fluctuates depending on other stresses also like work. It is difficult being with someone who has a lower libido to you, and I myself am still dealing with the mix of emotions and worries it brings me. Try to have an open conversation with him about his feelings and it may make you feel a bit better. My husband is embarrassed and angry that he has this disease so he doesn’t like to talk about it, however when we have discussed it he reassured me his low libido has nothing to do with his attraction to me or his desires, it’s just that he is so tired his body can’t physically do the deed. He is currently getting blood tests done to find out if he is lacking in anything else and is going to speak to his doctor about medication options to up his libido. 

FPO Rach87
Joined May 5, 2018

Tue, April 03, 2018 9:27 PM

Reply posted for lvebug32.

he is having a flairup then cause if its affecting his gi tract where hes prostate is which is part of sexual arousement then that flairup is partaking in that as well a decreased hormones.

FPO derek bruner
Joined Apr 3, 2018

Tue, October 24, 2017 3:31 AM

Reply posted for lvebug32.

Kidney Stones are very common problem these days. It is basically a urine tract disorder among the people. The kidney stone symptom is that it occurs when your natural texture of your urine become very fixed or full bodied. And this type of thing happens in your body then the material become so sturdy and tight in your kidney and is slowly move down to your urine potion and sooner or later it passes out from your body.

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FPO pharmarohit
Joined Oct 24, 2017

Tue, March 14, 2017 7:12 PM

Reply posted for lvebug32.

I agree the meds are not likely to cause that.  But it may not just be depression either.  It's entirely possible he's got some minor disease activity.  He absolutely should be going to see a doctor, and most likely have a colonoscopy to check it out.  Encourage him to do that.  It sure sounds like you're being a great personal and showing the concern by saying he refuses.  Remind him just minor activity can turn into major activity very quickly.  Within a week he could be in the hospital when that might have been prevented.  Have him go.  Seriiously.

FPO gcrawford
Joined Mar 14, 2017

Sun, July 24, 2016 10:55 AM

 Reply posted for rangerstown24.

He said his belly hurts and pulls when he's doing it he's not been to the doctor in awhile refuses to go

FPO lvebug32
Joined Jul 21, 2016

Sun, July 24, 2016 8:16 AM

 Reply posted for lvebug32.

In my experience the lack of sex drive wouldn't be from the disease itself. But if he hasn't been feeling well, depressed or things like that then I could see the drive change. So I would say if anything it's from the symptoms. Stuff going on inside his head

FPO rangerstown24
Joined Jul 24, 2016

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