Stress of Moving!
Wed, January 27, 2010 1:00 AM
I was diagnosed with UC February 1, 2009. I was out of commission for five months until things have begun to look better. At the time I worked at a state hospital, and my primary care doc didn't want me to return to work until I was off the prednisone for fear that I would catch some awful illness. During that time, I was sickened with three different viruses in a month. Hence the doc worrying. I finally returned to work in June, with a new job. The job, however, was comletely new to the department. I was honored to have been offered the job. They've been supportive of my illness when I'm having bad days, and are supportive with the idea of me moving on professionally. I feel a little stressed about leaving, but I know it's something my family and I have wanted for years now. Today is the day I accept the offer and give my notice.
I usually handle stress real well, but feel that preparing to move, training the person who will step in to take over my current job, looking for a new doc in the area we're going to move to, finding a place to live there, findng a decent school, making sure I have enough meds until I find the doc, etc. Amongst all this, I am also worried that this will cause the UC to stir up even more. I know I need to step back and just do things one at a time. My husband has been supportive and helpful through the years, more so since I was diangosed while being in the hospital. My son is excited about the possibility of moving. Our dog has no worries as long as he's with his "pack." I have learned that over the years, its easier to write what I'm experiencing down rather than keep it in. I thought if I did this, maybe someone can provide some feedback or advice to help the transition go a lot smoother. I've discussed it with my family, and think maybe some outside tips may be helpful.
bkupanoakJoined Mar 17, 2009
Sat, January 30, 2010 1:00 AM
Reply posted for Titan1.
Thanks for the feedback. It was just all overwhelming at first, but now it doesn't seem so bad. My husband and I are working diligenty (sp?) now on finding a rental. Given we're 500 miles away, we can't really go check out rentals ourselves, but know someone who can do a walk throughof a place for us. We've chosen a school already for our son, so that's done. Once we have a rental down, it's all downhill from there. Luckily, we've been waiting to move into a bigger rental our landlord has, and have already gotten rid of unnecessary items. We've given our notice, so our landlord can advertise for the remodeld rental we were going to move in to. It all seems to be working into place now.
bkupanoakJoined Mar 17, 2009
Fri, January 29, 2010 1:00 AM
Reply posted for Joe.
Sorry Joe, pressed the wrong reply, you know this wasn't meant for you, you already posted a thoughtful reply.
Joined Sep 1, 2008
Fri, January 29, 2010 1:00 AM
Reply posted for Joe.
I hear your concern. First fortunately there is no "law" that says stress, good or bad will cause a flare, so that's a take it as it goes, you may be surprised how well your body takes these changes.
Second, thinking of a move as a whole often looks like and is, an unmanageable task. The key to making something which is unmanagable, manageble is to break it down into it's components, you've started to do that already by having a plan.
Write down all the tasks you need or want to do, don't worry if the list looks long- that's actually good. As you do each item check it off, those items which you can't do ahead of time write next to it a step toward completing it and that will bring you closer.
So for example if you know which items you will not take with you can make that a little list- it doesn't have to be complete. If you don't have a place to stay at the other end, write down a step that you'd need to do towards that goal such as knowing if you want an apartment or a house, figuring how much you can spend etc.
I think you'll see as you slowly tick off the things on your list you start feeling more in control and that makes you feel better. Even filling out the change of address card at the post office can seem like a big accomplishment when it's with other items.
Don't worry there will always be changes to the list, flexibility is fine when it comes to life's move. You can number items to their priority which will help keep you organized and not get muddled in minutia.
Good luck to you! Moving can be challenging, but it's also refreshing and starting over can be grand!
Joined Sep 1, 2008
Wed, February 03, 2010 11:28 AM
Stress of Moving!Since February 2009 does not give you too much to go on. A lot of people on this forum talk about stress and IBD. Ive had UC for about 25 years, I dont see the stress connection. Being sick and trying to function is stressful. Little babies get IBD and they dont have a clue about stress. The best advice that I can give you is to read all that you can about IBD. Knowledge is power, know the enemy, have a good relationship with your gastroenterologist, take your medications, be good to yourself, find things to make you laugh. Crohns Disease and Ulcerative Colitis, everything you need to know, by Saibil., ISBN 1-55297-771-4. The Crohns Disease and Ulcerative Colitis Fact Book by the Crohns and Colitis Foundation of America, Inc., ISBN 0-684-17967-9.
Joe
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