I had my latest scope, and while I have some mild inflammation, clinicially I feel well. However, my dad was just diagnosed with late stage cancer, and I have been under a tremendous amount of stress. How best to cope with the stress ? I've never before taken anti-depressants or anti-anxiety meds, and not sure I want to start, BUT I want to make sure my colon stays in good shape during this ordeal. Please help.
Reply posted for aliciam.
I'm sorry to hear about your father's diagnosis. It is no wonder why you are feeling stressed I would suggest asking your Dr for a low dose of Ativan or Valium and take as needed. If it helps, then great...if you need more or other medications, that is OK!!! I think anti anxiety meds get a bad rap .. good luck to you!
Reply posted for aliciam.
I'm sorry for the stress you are experiencing. I run and it helps my stress level. However, when I become very stressed I wish a run or a yoga class could take it away. Just this past week I had 3 nights in a row I woke up at 3am and could not fall back to sleep. I teach First Grade so by 11 o'clock I was a mess. I finally took a 1/2 of a xanax. I slept until 4:30 which is normal for me on the days I get up to run. I also have two small children-5 and 7. I had a little flare on Thursday and I'm not surprised. ( I have crohns and colitis). I take it as a last resort but I know it's what is best for me right now. I wish stress didn't play a part in my disease but it absolutely does! Good luck! I am very sorry about your father.
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Reply posted for Lizzies Mom.
Thanks for all of the great advice, and I will surely try it all. I've never done yoga, but have wanted to, so maybe this will help.
I'm an oncology nurse ... so this is even more complicated. I know the medical implications / side of things whereas my parents do not. I certainly don't want to be the one to paint the grim picture for them ...
I know I need to stay strong for my family ... I have 2 small children as well (ages 5 1/2 and 3). Thankfully, my husband has been a great help, but even as a 35 y/o woman, I still feel like a little kid who wants her Daddy to be OK.
I'm sure I will vent some more as things change. Thanks again for all of the great advice.
Reply posted for aliciam.
I am sorry to hear of your dad's diagnosis. Your first job is to strengthen yourself so you can be strong for your family during this very trying time. Put yourself at the top of your priority list. I know it sounds impossible, but trust me, you can do it. Something as simple as an hour walk in the park, going out with friends (laughter is great for the heart and soul), picking up a hobby you enjoy. I agree with the previous post, yoga is a great thing, but if it isn't "your thing", than by all means, find it and do it. For me a simple hour jog in the park decreases my stress/anxiety level and allows me to be a better mom. Whatever you enjoy, get involved and do it. Also, pay attention to your gut now more than ever. Eat the foods that work for you and do your best to get plenty of sleep.
Lizzies Mom
Reply posted for aliciam.
When I was in Corporate America,I took a xanax every morning as I walked into my office. I've been retired 14 years and gave that up. 6 years ago I quit smoking. Now when I find myself stressed, I fix myself a cup of cappicuno and sit back and take a deep breath. Granted since I gave up my vices I haven't faced anything like you're going through. But the best suggestion I can offer is to try to relax. As a nervous wreck you're not helping anyone and a flare is the last thing you need. Try talking to your Dr. He/she may be able to put you in contact with a professional that knows Crohns and can guide you through the days ahead. Do you have a Crohns support group that you can go to? If nothing else, anytime you need to vent, this board is the place to do it. Good Luck, Marilyn