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Life with Crohns as a young guy


Tue, January 27, 2015 12:42 AM

hey you all im 25 year old guy from virginia. i started a blog talking about life with crohns and im going to be discusing mens issues...for instance im a new ostomate but how the *** am i supposed to get over the psychological barrier i have when my girlfriend says she doesnt care about it? i dont really want her to touch me...life with crohns..

check out my blog: www.crohnspatient2patient.wordpress.com

FPO apl2018
Joined Jan 26, 2015

Wed, June 24, 2015 9:47 PM

 Reply posted for apl2018.

I have had bowel problems since high school.It started out as ibs symptoms. I was always nervous and anxious at school.i skipped out on proms and sports totally. I didn't even date.I knew that graduating was important, I wanted to quit ,it was more than I felt I could handle.I had a bright future scholarship and pell grant and never used them.I was never sure what my passion for a career was because I was always just trying to deal with my life with later diagnosed leftsided ulcerative colitis.i am thankful for the health I have, at times I wish it was better.fatigue and tiredness are a battle from day to day.when I am finished working and get home many times I just need to lay down and rest before I do anything with my children.Yes I agree it's tough. I am still looking for answers and just trying to put my faith in God every day.I am 35 ,I took different anti depressant/anxiety meds since I was about 21. Last summer I decided to tapper off for good.This was a huge battle.I think accepting my life, limitations and learning patience help much; most importantly much prayer and trust in the Lord.

FPO findingfaith
Joined Jun 21, 2015

Tue, June 16, 2015 4:39 PM

 Reply posted for apl2018.

So I realize I'm not a guy but I am a 25 year old woman with crohns and I know how hard it can be to deal with relationships and this disease. I think you have to be honest with the person you are with about what is going on with your disease. Anyone that can't be understanding or supportive isn't worth trying to build a life with. I think more people are understanding than we want to believe because we spend too much time being embarrassed.

FPO brittcalderwood
Joined Jun 16, 2015

Wed, May 06, 2015 11:37 AM

 Reply posted for apl2018.

I understand your frustration but i got it the other way around where I did'nt wanna be touched sometimes. Take it from someone who is over 40. I avoided having children because well I'm selfish but I did'nt know whether I could take care of them or not. Pertaining to relationships, having chrohn's can be a psychological mind F*&k. This is not a sexy disease. I say that in regards to having almost any other disease because there isn't a lot embarassment and self inflicted stigma attached to it. Just build your energy up, meditation works and remember intimacy is mental first.

FPO hello40
Joined May 6, 2015