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DATING when do you tell ?


Thu, June 23, 2011 1:14 PM

I have an illeostomy and have had girls that have found about my condition from others and they lost their interest at that time.   I have met a girl/lady on line for 11/2 year now and not told her she is intelligent girl the kind you want to bring home seems to be wise beyond her years. I will go to visit her in next month ,another girl online told me not tell until I meet her and now this other girl (the one that knows about illeo ) wants to chat but this other girl seems more my style. Any advice when to reveal my illeostomy story -I am very healthy and happy now -no problems whatever except Im lonely.

FPO silentchase
Joined Jun 23, 2011

Thu, June 23, 2011 7:45 PM

 Reply posted for silentchase.

I guess I'm from an older generation when people actually dated  (in person), so perhaps I am "old school", but you have nothing to lose by getting her know her on a face-to-face level before spilling every bean in your pot.  I think when the time is right you will know.  In the meantime, get to know each other, share interests, have fun! 

Lizzies Mom

FPO lizzies mom
Joined Sep 9, 2009